Islamic Wedding Ceremony: Husna&Haris Story

The Bride’s Feelings

The story of the two of us has “sabr” (patience) as its core. We both endured the hardships with patience and never tired of making dua to Allah (SWT) every day.
It wasn’t easy, but it wasn’t too hard either, for our interfaith love. It started with someone who used to think, “You follow your religion, I’ll follow mine, there’s nothing wrong with that” — but really, that’s not quite right. Once we began studying Islam seriously, we found our answers. During this stage my husband-to-be was very cooperative and sweet, staying by my side the whole time, guiding and teaching me things to gradually learn, which made me feel good and warm inside, until I opened my heart and accepted Islam into my life.

This stage is important. If both of you love each other, you need to support one another through it — don’t let the other person feel like they’re struggling and facing this change alone. Changing religion, in another sense, is like changing your whole life; you need to understand and give them time too.

The Islamic wedding ceremony of Khun Husna&Haris held at the Islamic Center

In the end, when our love became eternal (nikah), we felt so proud and happy, because we held hands together and made it through every test to reach this day. I want to send encouragement to every couple who is facing tests right now — hold hands tightly enough, and may you make it through every obstacle together until it becomes eternal… insha’Allah.

The Groom’s Feelings

The story of the two of us has “iman” (faith) as its core. The questions and answers mattered a great deal once we got to know each other and began opening up to talk about everything, including matters of faith that she had quietly wondered about for a long time. Many questions gradually came out one after another. I made a real effort to answer them well, and thought she’d be satisfied with my answers — which, for the most part, she was. But some questions were extremely difficult to answer, and when I tried answering the way the elders in my family had once answered me, I could sense she still didn’t fully understand and had unspoken objections (even though she nodded as if she understood).

This was what made me go back and reconsider the questions I myself had once asked the elders when I was a child, but never really got good answers for. Sometimes I was even scolded for it — told not to ask, not to doubt. That doubt from back then never really went away; it had just been quietly hiding until today.

Until the day came when I was the one being asked questions myself. That’s when it was time for me to start finding all the answers within my own faith again. Alhamdulillah, I no longer had to go back and ask the elders, because I had the Internet in my pocket at all times — whenever I had a doubt, I could look it up right away. Before long I had good answers to bring back to her, answers that she understood and was fairly satisfied with, which led to more questions, again and again, and it kept going like that — until finally, one day, “Baby bear wants to become Muslim now.” I was overjoyed, and started preparing to move forward, even though during that time several elders expressed concern about whether her faith was genuine. I understood their good intentions, but either way, I felt they didn’t yet know that she had found the very faith she herself had been searching for her whole life.

So I was ready to devote everything I had to her wholeheartedly.
But here’s another truth — I don’t think I was searching for those answers only to answer her questions. It felt more like I was searching for answers for myself. Because every time I found an answer to something that had lingered unanswered for so long, it made me more confident and made me want to keep developing myself even further. Thank you to her for helping me become even more confident in my own faith. Today, even though we’ve already had our nikah, the desire to keep learning and to keep developing ourselves as a couple is still there. We still ask each other questions and help each other find the answers — with trust, with respect for the questions, with love, with patience — and I hope it stays this way forever. Insha’Allah. ^^